Answer
Attraction to the opposite gender is a form of material conditioning because it is based on bodily identification. When we identify with the body, we naturally perceive differences between bodies, and on that basis we develop notions of beauty, attractiveness, and enjoyment.
However, in Krishna consciousness, the fundamental understanding is that “I am not the body,” and neither is the other person merely the body. Therefore, bodily attraction is understood to be an illusory phenomenon.
This can be realized by hearing and studying the scriptures, and by receiving guidance from proper spiritual authority. We can also reflect on the fact that this illusion of material enjoyment does not last, and we already have sufficient experience of its temporary nature.
The process of overcoming this illusion is the practice of Krishna consciousness. As mentioned earlier, it begins with chanting the Hare Krishna mantra. At any time, one can simply vibrate the tongue and chant the holy names, thereby gradually withdrawing from material illusion and focusing on spiritual reality.
With even a little advancement in Krishna consciousness, one begins to see others not merely as bodies, but as spirit souls within the body. This shift in vision comes through chanting, hearing, and remembering what has been learned in devotional study.
However, progress requires meaningful engagement. Simply remaining idle and expecting to avoid illusion is not practical. When the mind is not engaged in a positive spiritual activity, it naturally seeks material distractions.
Therefore, a key principle in Krishna consciousness is to remain properly engaged at all times. If there is no immediate duty or service, one should engage in chanting, hearing, reading, or studying Krishna conscious literature.
By filling all idle time with such activities, one becomes protected from material allurements and remains steadily situated in devotional consciousness.
